The Little Bastard That's Controlling You

You drag it around like a ball and chain

You wallow in the guilt; you wallow in the pain

You wave it like a flag, you wear it like a crown

Got your mind in the gutter, bringin' everybody down

Complain about the present and blame it on the past

I'd like to find your inner child and kick its little ass

Get over it

Get over it

All this bitchin' and moanin' and pitchin' a fit

Get over it, get over it

“ Get Over It” Don Henley

He’s less than 3’2” with an attitude a mile long, and he does nothing but complain. His twin sister is equally miserable and disappointed...You don’t know it but they rule you, and make demands all the time. You are at the mercy of a 4 year old...She is not happy with you and she knows how to show it. He routinely holds his breath ‘til he turns blue when he doesn’t get what he wants and he often doesn’t get what he wants. Who are these little monsters?

Why, it’s your inner child, that mythological creature that lurks somewhere just below your consciousness and has its hot little hands on your joy and your pain. It is the part of you that had all of your hopes and dreams...the part you’ve betrayed. And that kid is pissed! Think about those early aspirations of yours. Remember who you set out to be? Remember how you thought life was going to be? You promised yourself greatness, and love, and joy. What does that child have left now? What have you delivered? Many, many broken promises and unfulfilled dreams.

Trouble is, this character can and will make you miserable. What’s that pain in your side? Why are you suddenly sad for no reason? Oh yeah, your inner child just kicked you in the side and turned up the sadness. You’re unaccountably discouraged and out of energy. It isn’t the world making you sad, it is this version of you. This kid has your number and if you’re smart, you will start to listen.

We dutifully queue up to the line at Space Mountain in the Magic Kingdom hoping to recapture our original spirit of joy (only to be stepped on by an angry parent juggling two crying kids) when we can simply turn inward and listen. Sit yourself down and reminisce a little. Be that child again and remember. Reconnect with those dreams, those passions and those feelings of optimism. Let yourself be filled again with the feeling that you can do anything, have anything, create anything in your life. The child in you is the magic in you.  

That inner self is alive and well and has a lot to say. If you listen hard enough you can still hear the hopes and the passions that were always there. Don’t be overly concerned that your dreams have changed; they naturally will over time. Focus on the experience of possibility and reignite your belief and enthusiasm in your life. You were right back then, it is a magical life. When you let that belief go, you let go of the best part of you. Those little terrors inside of you can make you sick and sad and depressed and depleted, and will do so when you don’t give them the love. But when you do give that inner child the love, the world gets brighter, life gets more exciting and you are back in the game. Invite the little one back in, with compassion and enthusiasm and experience a “magic kingdom” of your own.

Thomas Jones