The New Contract

You have a contract with life: a set of agreements to achieve some goals and not others. You are living by a set of rules that are largely unacknowledged, but those rules are making your daily choices. What's running you? What is your contract? It is those very rules and goals. Do you think you've agreed to succeed? To excel? To shine in the world? Unlikely. Your contract exactly reflects where you are right now, no more and no less. It was negotiated by your ego, designed to protect you. If you haven't deliberately created a contract, the default one is there to keep you from taking risks or getting hurt. It is not designed to achieve but to keep you out of harm's way.

Let's check in on your progress: Notice where your life is financially. Is it where you need it to be? Check out where you are emotionally in your life. It's all part of the agreement. The same goes for your social status and your career. Each area obeys the rules of the road for the old contract. You are living not to fail, and you will find the easy way out, whether it is what you aspire to or not. Your dreams are dangerous and painful, with hidden failure and disappointment waiting for you. In romance, you may avoid the pain of rejection and might never dare to love, or to love fully.

Take an inventory of your life and the status of each of these areas and it will become apparent to you exactly what your contract is. Where is your relationship life? Your financial life? Your social life? Your emotional life? What about your career? Your dreams? If the answer to any of these questions is not where you want it to be, it's time for a new contract and an action plan to implement it.

Divide a piece of paper into four columns. In the first column, insert the five main areas of your life: money, career, family, friendships, health. In the column next to it, put a brief description of where each area is at. In the next column write down where you want each area to be, those goals that you want to achieve in these areas. Don't overwhelm yourself. In the last column write down small achievable steps to achieving each goal. Don't work too hard, but write down how each area can be improved, a little.

Now you've got power and information and a plan to change! Read it every day for a month and take one step every single day, even if you only spend one minute on it! Remember, we follow the instructions that we've created, so stick with it every day. If you do this, I promise you that your life will change and get better. This is your new contract: one that will create a new life.

Thomas Jones